Okay. Time for another story.
A few months ago I was on social media. I was seeing the successes of a friend and realized that I was having a really negative cycle after every time I saw this particular persons’ posts. Where I had a ton of negative self talk about what this person was and all the things I was not.
I don’t get stuck with social media self-pity very often. For me, it’s not about beautiful houses, fashion, or perfection in motherhood—but about missed performance opportunities—a discovery I only recently made when looking at this post. And it hit me like a ton of bricks.
So, for a couple weeks I just tried to avoid social media. But it didn’t fix the pit in my stomach any time these posts showed up. I hated feeling no control over my emotions about this person that I love dearly, but was making me feel inadequate and pick myself apart. It wasn’t their problem. It was mine.
Comparison is the freaking WORST. And does absolutely nothing for achieving your goals. In fact, it’s quite opposite. It will paralyze you. Unfortunately, comparison is also something we deal with every day as performers. And that’s ok. It’s natural. We need to know how to tackle these thoughts when they happen. We can tell our brains what to do with these thoughts and take all the power out of them with these steps:
Single out the individual that stirs up these feelings. And sort out the root thought about this person.
Write down the thought and cross it out-to communicate to the brain that it’s not true and to disregard it. It will seem crazy to see the actual thought formulate.
Find one positive thought about the individual.
Name one positive thought about yourself.
We don’t have time for these thoughts, clouding our minds and stunting our progress. Enough! We don’t need to be bogged down, anymore. We need to support our fellow actors and know that we are original. No one can be us and we cannot be anyone else. Be happy for your friends and know that you are doing or are in pursuit of beautiful and worthy things that you should throw your heart into. Repeat these steps for as many times as you need until you are unstoppable and living to your fullest potential. Deallll??!